This week opened with what lifeguards teach about rip currents. You don't fight one head-on, because the danger is exhaustion, not the water. You swim parallel to shore, sideways, which feels like going nowhere, and then you come in. Knowledge is what keeps people safe, because most people get in trouble by not knowing what is happening underneath the surface.

Red flags are usually not hidden, they are dismissed. When it comes to relationships, healing starts with us, not with the other person.